How to Avoid Arguments
One of the most difficult challenges in our loving relationships is handling differences and disagreements. Often when couples disagree their discussions can turn into arguments and then without much warning Into battles. Suddenly they stop talking in a loving manner and automatically begin hurting each other: blaming, complaining, accusing, demanding, resenting, and doubting.
Men and women arguing in this way hurt not only their feelings but also their relationship. Just as communication is the most important element in a relationship, arguments can be the most destructive element, because the closer we are to someone, the easier it is to bruise or be bruised.
For all practical purposes, I strongly recommend that couples not argue. When two people are not sexually involved it is a lot easier to remain detached and objective while arguing or debating. But when couples argue who are emotionally involved and especially sexually involved, they easily take things too personally.
As a basic guideline: never argue. Instead, discuss the pros and cons of something. Negotiate for what you want but don’t argue. It is possible, to be honest, open, and even express negative feelings without arguing or fighting.
Some couples fight all the time, and gradually their love dies. On the other extreme, some couples suppress their honest feelings In order to avoid conflict and not argue. As a result of suppressing their true feelings, they lose touch with their loving feelings as well. One couple is having a war while the other is having a cold war.
It is best for a couple to find a balance between these two extremes. By remembering we are from different planets and thus developing good communication skills, It Is possible to avoid arguments without suppressing negative feelings and conflicting ideas and desires.
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